…we frugal, inventive parents have a moment of anxiety. “I got her too little stuff!” “This pile is way too tiny!” “What was I thinking, getting him so many books, free from the library’s used pile at that?”
lol. Yep, this is par for the course. For many of us, swimming against the current of the mainstream causes us a shiver of self-doubt now and then. “Is this okay? Is it really enough?”
Yeah, it is. Most of us are never going to give more to our kids than the most excessive family does -there will always be a kid with a bigger pile. What happens, then, if we let go of the Joneses as a measure of success and sufficiency?
…we give our children the opportunity to be satisfied with a reasonable amount of material goods.
…we have room and time and relaxation sufficient for cuddling, playing board games, singing, and swimming with them.
…we build memories of peace, ease, and laughter.
…we wrap up the holiday with savings abundant enough to support our children into our next shared season.
…we preserve enough to share with people in actual need.
…we create enough space in our children’s lives for creativity, imagination, and connection.
A heckuvalot of gifts, to be sure.
“Santa” having a fleeting experience of uh-oh does not indicate Santa should spend more. It means Santa is successfully countering cultural norms in favour of her child’s well-being. Awesome!