This is the time of year I look over my finances of the past 11.5 months. What did I spend? How happy have my son and I been feeling? What costs went up or down? Are my child and I thriving? Yep, it’s not just a dollars-and-cents review. Money is absolutely linked with health and… Continue reading Can I Be Happy Without Every Metric of the Minority World?
In response to Darcy’s comment here, I’m exploring the matter of building community. There is so much to talk about, I’m focusing on one aspect at a time. Today’s idea is around finding our yessayers. My friend Raj was struggling with a person who continually blocked Raj’s ideas: “This won’t work because…” “You won’t be able… Continue reading Building Community: Finding Your Yessayers
What? It’s May and you’re finished working for the year?!? Geez, I wish I could finish working for the year! I’ve got my rent to pay, plus my loans to pay off. Hey, by the way, how is it that you don’t have an iPad? They’re so great! Let me show you all the stuff… Continue reading How I Quit My Job Every Single Year
Almost twenty years ago, a friend described my then-boyfriend as being “like a cat.” He didn’t mean quiet and fuzzy. He was pointing out that my boyfriend sidled up to anyone available when he needed his version of food—a toke, a beer, sex. On one level, I couldn’t really see it. On another, I knew… Continue reading Human Cats, Human Dogs
I was three years out of my teens. Just weeks before, I had married. Today I was fresh out of my first-ever psychiatric hospitalization. “Adjustment disorder” they called it. Surely, I had been fine before this—though perhaps slightly vulnerable to stress—and would be fine again shortly. I was simply taxed, of course, by the move… Continue reading The Gift of Safety
I had been working long hours for long years, and was still loving my career. One of the incredible joys—one which made the whole thing possible—was that the only other person in the office full-time was a close girlfriend. While working very hard together, we also helped each other heal from a given case, laughed… Continue reading Run, Run Away!