A year or so after we broke up, I asked a beloved ex-boyfriend, “If you were going to warn a potential partner about anything in me, what would it be?” Given that I’d already had an extensive psychiatric history by then, and that it was he that had broken up with me and not the… Continue reading Loss in Autism
Walking through the rural countryside today, my heart lifted. I see, feel, and hear nature’s presence, constancy, and care. Crossing the creek, the following came: We got the wedding vows all wrong. Or, maybe I’ve been hearing other people incorrectly all this time. For almost 45 years, I’ve believed the vow to love and support… Continue reading In Sickness & In Health: The Flip Side
At the end of the evening, my son’s face was beaming and his eyes shining to a degree I don’t know that I’ve seen before. He’s a very happy and enthusiastic kid, but Sunday seemed to propel him to another level. For the first time in his life, we’d spent Christmas independently of family. I… Continue reading An Amazing Christmas
Relationship psychologist John Gottman states that a relationship which includes defensiveness, contempt, criticism, and stonewalling has a 10% chance of making it. This means that when I spent money on couples counselling and workshops with a
